10 Valuable Life Lessons from Girl Group Songs

supremesGirl groups of the early 1960s famously sighed and cried over boys, but they also gave great advice to their young fans. Over handclaps and finger snaps, the ladies counseled listeners about love, self-confidence, and attitude. The fact that the words of wisdom were catchy only helped them stick in the minds of their audience, where they have endured for decades. Let’s take a look at the ten best pieces of advice you can glean from the coolest girls around.

1. Be patient. (“You Can’t Hurry Love” by the Supremes) Sometimes love takes time, so just follow mama’s advice: “You just have to wait! She said love don’t come easy, it’s a game of give and take”.

2. When you do find love, you can tell whether or not it’s real by the way he kisses. (“The Shoop Shoop Song” by Betty Everett) Don’t you dare think that it’s in his eyes, his face, his embrace, or even the way he acts. “You’re not listening to all I say! If you wanna know if he loves you so, it’s in his kiss!”

3. You should also make sure he’s not just a charmer. (“Sweet Talkin’ Guy” by the Chiffons) This one is pretty clear: “He’ll send you flowers, then paint the town with another girl.” That’s the one you want to stay away from.

4. If it’s for real, just tell him! (“Tell Him” by the Exciters) Brenda has been there, ladies: “I know something about love: you’ve gotta want it bad! If that guy’s got into your blood, go out and get him!” There’s nothing to be said for sitting around wishin’ and hopin’ (just ask Dusty Springfield).

5. If he rejects you, it’s his loss. (“Too Many Fish in the Sea” by the Marvelettes) “My mother once told me something and every word is true: don’t waste your time on a fella who doesn’t love you.” Besides, as the Marvelettes advise, there are so many guys out there you may as well move on.  “If a fish ain’t on your line, bait your hook and keep on trying. Don’t let it get you down, there’s other boys around!”

6. Although, finding a good man can be difficult. (“Needle in a Haystack” by the Velvelettes) Play hard to get, don’t believe anything that a man says, ever, and most of all “Take my advice: Girls, you better get yourself on the right track, cause finding a good man is like finding a needle in a haystack!”

7. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself. (“Girl, You Better Go For Yourself” by the Essex) “I have always been the kind who was alone and shy, so I asked my friends why did love pass me by? And they said girl you better go for yourself,” Anita Humes muses in this unusual song. Go and do what? “I wanna party all night, I wanna feel alright, I wanna laugh and shout, I wanna work it on out.” Well, okay then. Go on, girl.

8. Be cool, stay in school. (“Don’t Drop Out” by Dolly Parton) Before she was a country music legend, Dolly sang girl group-style pop songs like this one. “Don’t drop out my life, baby don’t be a fool. You’re old enough to know you’re too young to face the world so cruel!”, she counsels. “You’re not prepared to do anything, so if you wanna buy me that diamond ring, don’t drop out!”

9. Don’t talk about anyone else’s boyfriend. Unless you want a fight. (“Don’t Say Nothing Bad About my Baby” by the Cookies) Well, this one should be a no-brainer. “He’s true to me, so girl you better shut your mouth!” Indeed.

10. Just listen to your mother. (“Mama Said” by the Shirelles) As the songs above demonstrate, mama gives good advice. Why wouldn’t you just listen to her?